Hold onto your hats, folks, beacause this book of advice will blow you away — author Harlan Cohen says that “Getting Naked: Five Steps to Finding the Love of Your Life (While Fully Clothed and Totally Sober)” will be a mega hit, especially with college students. It has helped people find relationships and get over past relationships, calling it the “world’s greatest secret” because it “exposes dating and relationships in a way that hasn’t been done before,” Cohen said in an interview with Dartbeat.
How does it do this, you may ask? By giving you control and empowerment! There is a whole world of options of people to hook up with or be in a relationship with and, whatever you want, you can have. But only if you are willing to make some sacrifices like hearing “no” once in awhile or being embarrassed to see someone in public after, Cohen said. Up to you!… Read more »
An Internal Monologue
Realize I was supposed to have this in nine minutes ago. Crap.
Spend ten minutes reading Savage Love, eighteen minutes reading Modern Love, twelve minutes on Babeland.com and twenty-five minutes browsing J. Crew…. Read more »
We tend to be a bit obsessed with the idea of fairness. We want grading to be fair. We want court cases to be fair. We want wealth distribution in America to be fair… or so I hope. However, sometimes we get a bit petty about fairness. For example, I’m currently holding grudges based on a few things: the fact that my younger brother currently has a later curfew than I did in high school; that sophomore spring I had a 9L and my roommate didn’t and thus got to sleep more than I did; that once in middle school where my brother ate the last Nutter Butter cookie. However, there are issues of fairness in our everyday life that necessitate further discussion. While I could ramble on about the meal plan or people talking in the Tower Room, I decided to stick with something more in my area of expertise: reciprocity. Reciprocity can mean a lot of things, but when it comes to sex, it usually means oral. Oral is one of the more obvious ways one person receives pleasure while the other person is “doing work.” Plus, if we’re looking at heterosexual relations, guys are getting blowjobs more… Read more »
Coming up with article ideas sometimes gets annoying because I’ll have a topic come to me that seems, for a second, to be really relevant and important. Then, I’ll start writing, and realize it basically can be summed up in one sentence. This week, I’m taking the time to record all the things I have listed on my ever-growing sticky note (excluding the few whose true meaning have been forgotten, including “white wine/dry humping” and “sex dreams ho”) So I present: my stickies…. Read more »
Writing about consent for this column felt a little weird at first. I try to avoid getting super intense here, so people sort of know what they’re getting into when they click “read more.” That means no super graphic posts or listings of sexually transmitted infections or depressing poetry about my love life. However, consent isn’t actually something stale and depressing (like a celibate sex columnist). The phrase “consent is sexy” has been tossed around, but it’s more than that; consent is sex. If we see sex as a shared experience between two people, focused on not only one’s own pleasure but also the pleasure of one’s partner, then consent isn’t just a box you check. It is an essential and intrinsic part of sex. Without a partner (or partners!) who are as excited about what is happening as you are, sex loses its meaning. Sex, when seen in such a lens, is an ongoing, communicative process of assessing your partner’s enjoyment, and vice-versa. Thus, sex is consent…. Read more »
I recently read a book about religious extremists that touched on the ideas of missionaries and conversion[1]. While I’ll save the cultural imperialism spiel for my sociology papers, I admit to having a certain amount of admiration for people who believe in something strongly enough to dedicate their lives towards spreading its word. Viewing my own life, I have found the only pursuits that inspire the passion necessary for peer conversion are South Asian dance (having forced a truly bizarre number of people to join Vandana) and the use of vibrators[2]. For once, I figured I’d skip the enthusiastic praise and medical benefits of sex toys, and go right to the nitty gritty: how to get a sex toy in Hanover…. Read more »